Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Poll
My son, 19 (we be 20 next month) has been dating a girl for 2 1/2 years. She is a senior in high school. Prom is coming up and we got in to a discussion last night about him taking her to prom. He stated that she will have to find another date because he would look stupid going at 20 and wouldn't have anyone else there his age. I told him that it wasn't about him and he should take her as it is more special to the girl. My daughter agreed with him. What do you think? Am I out of line telling him he should take her?
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I don't think you can "mandate" him to take his girlfriend to the prom but I do know that it's one of those things that are "moments" you look back on and think about. Guys may not actually feel the same way but I know that I didn't get asked to the prom and didn't end up going and now as an adult there's a small "gap" in the story I can tell about relating in high school. It's a party and a dance and really it's about the two of them...if he doesn't want to hold her close and sway to john mayer...well then...he may be wrecking what could be a magical moment for the two of them. OR like so many of our high school friends...it could end up being a drag of a night and they end up spending a lot of money on pomp and circumstance that otherwise could have been fun elsewhere. Does his girlfriend want to go?
The idea that he could just have someone else take her just seems a little sad and kind of a little cold. When you want to dance with someone you want that someone to be the person you've liked a whole lot for the last two years...not some stranger who just is a stand in.
I agree that no one can force him to go to the prom. However, I cannot believe this is even a question. Of course he has to take her!! He has chosen to date a girl who is still in high school, so he has to be flexible and attend her events.
I think it is almost selfish for him to deny her enjoying her prom with her boyfriend.
Just my opinion.
And glad to see you back around on the blog-o-sphere. I missed you!!
I haven't seen you a bit so came looking. I don't think you should make your son do anything because he's a grown man. I have a son who is only 14 and I'd love to tell him what to do, but then I'd take away his ability to stand on his own two feet.
I think this is a private issue between your son and his girlfriend. How wild that he's dating a girl still in school! I met my husband in high school, but we were in the same grade. lol
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